Anniversary Decisions

We celebrated our 5^th anniversary over the weekend and it was such a nice one at that.  We discussed our recent decision to adopt and come up with a surprising outcome. 

After a lengthy and very deep chat we both decided that we are going to slow down and take our time with adoption.  We both think we are moving too fast.  Jose pointed out that he wants to travel a little more before adopting and I can see where he is coming from.  Also through the adoption agency we are working with wants us to move into a two bedroom before we can even be interviewed and that still rattles me.  I personally don’t want to move with a risk of being turned down, right now.  I like where we live and we only moved here a year ago.  We are going to continue going to other agencies to see if it may be a better fit or not.  There is much more to learn about adoption before diving in, for us.

Postponing adoption two to three years isn’t really anytime at all.  We just feel that something is off right now so we are just going to try and figure it out right now.  So right now adoption will still continue to be a dream for us and still be discussed on here but I am going to open my blog up to our travels, our day to day life as we have it now and let’s just see what happens.  I hope you all will still follow me.  We just feel this is the best decision right now.

Lots of love, hugs and kisses

Thoughts while making some yummy healthy frittatas

I decided to make some cupcake size frittatas because:

1. They are a healthy option
2. They are seriously yummy
3. I make them when I need to butter up to some amazing co-workers (hehe)

Link to the recipe:  Totally give props to the Creator of this delish funness!

http://www.sugarlaws.com/mini-spinach-frittatas

While I was creating my masterpieces I immediately thought about how my darling Jose didn’t like them because they are veggie.  At first I thought, “I should make some special just for him, but why does he always want something a little different when I make something?  Either he wants his tapatio or his tortillas or his jalapeños.  Then I thought “umm Jimmy, total reality check”.  If you are going to have a child, nothing you make will just be enough.  I got an immediate flashback to when my sister was a chiquitita (means little one in Spanish).  She was very picky, my mom would either have to make what my sister would eat or my sister would hardly eat.  She would only eat a few different things: spaghetti, hamburgers (the bun and the meat), venison (deer meat) and chicken (depending on what the chicken was cooked with).

So that means no veggies for her at ALL.  Even now it’s hard to get her to eat veggies, can you imagine trying to get her to eat a veggie burger?  I think not!

I quickly came to the conclusion to get over it and adjust my cooking to how people in my family like it.  So I made some veggie and some with bacon as requested.  I might as well start training myself now instead of being shocked when my child doesn’t want to eat my cooking.  I have to admit, I “can” be dramatic so I wouldn’t really be that shocked.  I just need to prepare myself for a possible picky eater.  And if that’s the case, I will still greet the situation with open arms, hugs, kisses, and more I love you’s than ever before.

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LGBT and Confidence Children Books

Recently I got curious and wondered about children books.  I grew up with Dr. Seuss and I loved “Green Eggs & Ham” and “One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish” and loved them.

However now, I have found a whole new world of children’s books.  I have found many books on LGBT families and confidence books.

The two LGBT books I have bought so far are”

1.       A Tale of Two Daddies

2.       Daddy, Papa, and Me

I feel as an LGBT family it’s important especially with adoption to provide information to children that having two daddies is ok even though it is different to the “norm”.

The books we have got so far are such fun books.  “A Tale of Two Daddies” is about a little girl’s friend asked her questions on having two daddies, such as:  Who cooks for you and who tucks you in at night. The answers are both daddies of course!

The same kinda deal goes for “Daddy, Papa, and Me.  Both daddies want to play with the child and dress up.  It just shows in both books that two daddies are just as amazing as a mom and dad.

There are long lists of books I want to get with all different age groups – mainly from 4 to 8.  There is even a child’s book about Harvey Milk which I find really important but I haven’t bought it yet.

One of my top books that I want to get is:

·         My Uncles Wedding by Eric Ross

It’s a cute story, Andy is a little boy and the story is through his eyes about his uncle marrying his partner.  The author is from San Francisco and it’s just a super cute book.  So to all my friends with kids, as soon as gay marriage is once again legal in California you’re SO getting a copy!  Since Jose and I quickly call ourselves uncles even though we are no way related.

For the confidence books:

I find myself with a long wish list on Amazon.com for books especially in this area of books, such as:

1.       The Skin You Live In

2.       The Peace Book

3.       The I Love You Book

4.       The Feelings Book

5.       It’s Okay To Be Different

6.       We Belong Together

7.       We’re Different, We’re the Same

The list goes on and on, this is just to name a few.

The main point in all these books is that it’s always ok to be yourself, we will always love you no matter what, there are so many different types of people, and you can always tell us how you feel.

I find with a new generation of books children may grow up with better communication to their parents or at least feel more comfortable talking with their parents about anything.  Also, through these books knowing that they are loved and that YOU love them no matter what.  The earlier they feel in their heart that you love them the better it will be, especially if you adopt a child and if they are older. 

Here is my dilemma:

How many LGBT and confidence books are too much?  When will it be just too much?  I feel the classics definitely have their place but I guess I look at these books and I wish I read whoever you are and how ever you are, you are ok.  It’s ok to be adopted, have a different color of skin than your parents, that you have two daddies (or mommies), or have curly hair.  These situations are real but I feel we can help with the confidence through these books.

I can go crazy buying all these books so I decided to for now on to go through all the books with Jose before buying 50 different books.  I find that I can be a bit excessive.   J



Orientation Last Night:

Thoughts on Orientation:

Last night went well but I have to be honest, orientation scared me.  Five couples and one single hopeful parent were there last night and my tummy was in total knots.  Not to mention I rushed right after work and Jose was running a tad late because he had to go check in on Lola.  First impressions are a must in this case but when I got to the Unitarian Church (where they held orientation) I felt tired and I must have looked it too because the lady running the show offered me some coffee.  I immediately thought “I picked the wrong day to start working out again”.  I sat down and got super nervous.  Everybody was talking about the children they already had and other couples were talking about their day, then there was me with my huge gym bag addicted to looking at my phone wondering where Jose is.  He is my calming down stabilizer and he was nowhere to be found.  Well luckily he walked in right before they shut the door.   Deep breath and here we go!

Now about the information:

The Children:

So much to talk about and only two hours to do it in;

What kind of home they could possibly come from and why?

Answer:  They can come from anywhere and anything could have happened to them.  There was no specific child she spoke about it was all generally speaking.

The stories broke my heart and it was hard to hear (for some reason the older I get the more sensitive I get).  Children could be in foster care from birth all the way to 18 years old and then they are sent out to the world alone.  Scary?  I think so. I can’t imagine that, so hard to believe that is the actual reality for so many children.

The Process:

So this is when I got a bit discouraged.  They went through step by step but they quickly told us that we need to have the room ready before the process even starts.  Even before our interview.  So I quickly looked at Jose because we don’t have two bedrooms.  We only have one.  I wish we could at least be interviewed first.  So we don’t know when we will be able to move.  We are very picky about locations but it seems that we are going to really have to figure it out sooner than later.  Jose wants to move around the summer time and of course I want to start looking like “yesterday”.  So hearing about the apartment really set us back time wise.

The options:

There are so many kids out there waiting for homes I don’t think that process will be long at all for us, once we get there.  They told us the more open we are, the easier it will be to find a child for us.  We are very open, we would like a child anywhere from 0 – 8 or 9.  It just really depends on the child and the connection. 

My final thoughts: 

I was discouraged last night for sure but I woke up this morning with a new outlook and we will tackle this.  We will be able to get through this even though it won’t be when I was hoping too.  I do have the attitude when I want something done I do my best to get it done then.  Jose told me I should slow down and it will happen when it’s supposed too.  I agree with Jose but every day that goes by is a day I get older.  I want to be able to be as active as possible with them every day.  So I just need to take a couple deep breaths and we will take the next step.

Look for an apartment.

Finally A Celebrity! (at least to me)

Complete credit to "Born This Way" blog and CNN.  I just wanted to share this with all of you!  :)

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Featured on CNN.com for "Born This Way" article!

Got an email from a lovely friend letting me know that part of my Born This Way submission made it in the CNN.com article!  So exciting!  Care to read here is the link!

http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/03/09/born.this.way/index.html?hpt=C2